Last week I gave a presentation for a networking event. It challenged me in a million different ways, and it was great.
Was it perfectly executed? Nope. Exactly what I had planned and practiced? Nope. Did I get my point across and fulfill my intention? Yes.
Did it give me the push (shove) out of my comfort zone that I needed? YES, and that’s the great part.
Public speaking is not something that scares me. As a trained musician, this is one area where my performance degree has been put to good use. I can fake it ‘till I make it on stage, in front of a crowd, with little holding me back. But talking about my business on stage; this creative and meaningful project that I’ve embarked on, talking about my reason for doing it, and why I feel passionate about my words, means showing an immense amount vulnerability. Letting the confident exterior I build up ‘faking it’ on stage fall away, being real, telling the truth of my story, that is scary.
I told this group of people about my own weight loss story. I told the truth about the thoughts, beliefs, and struggles I had when I was in a bigger body than I am now. I told the truth about how even after I had lost over 70lbs, it still wasn’t enough – I wasn’t enough. Even when I had lost the weight, I still had all the same thoughts, beliefs, and struggles – they were just in a smaller body. I told the truth behind transformation photos, why happiness can’t be found in a “better body”, and why to truly love and accept yourself, you have to work from the inside out, because if you can’t accept who you are on the inside, you will never accept who you are on the outside.
You will never be enough, until you see that you already are.
So after my presentation, I got to meet, mingle, and network with a GREAT group of local professionals. There was one interaction that evening that struck me, a statement from someone who said:
“I’m sorry to hear about your struggles with weight, and that you had to go through all of that.”
Wait… What?! I was taken aback, confused, stopped in my tracks.
Because, I had never thought of it that way.
Never, have I regretted my journey, felt sorry for the struggles, felt hardened, or victimized… There isn’t one part of me that wishes I didn’t have to have those experiences. And if I could go back and change my life, well, I wouldn’t.
If I hadn’t struggled, if I hadn’t lost the weight, if I hadn’t dipped into the very low places that I did, I wouldn’t be exactly where I am today, above it all, and stronger than ever.
Challenges make you grow, make you learn, make you OVERCOME. Whether it’s a presentation at a networking event or years of body-image struggles, it’s the challenging things in life, the low valleys and the dark places, and the steps and leaps outside of your comfort zone, that move you forward.
Keep moving forward, always.
Have a transformational week,
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